How to make him come to me?

12 years ago

Well i was going with a boy , he used to cheat on me, and i forgave him because i thought he will change. But he didn't . At our school party, he told me he didn't want to come , i said i will come and he said he will come for me, when he came he didn't let me know, till i called him and he joined me. He was with me but his mind was far. He was texting . He told he won't stay with me longime because someone is waiting for him at home. I said ok. he wasn't going. Then he told me he's going to call a guy friend to come join us. I said he can, then he said he is coming right now. I waited for him like 20mins he wasn"t coming. A friend of mine saw me and asked why i was all alone , i explained and she said she just saw him with a girl. I was sad but i've seemed fine. Then we decided to go walk and we found out they were going to take a drink. He called me asking me to come with that other girl, i said i'm good. Then he came to me and i told him it was over with out explanation. He stayed there like 5 mins, he didn't move and he was calling me and i didn't answer. Then he went join the other girl and his friends. And after it , he didn't call me. This happened yesterday and till now he didn't call me. I'm wondering if i should call him asking him why he was calling me or i should wait and see? It's not his first time to hurt me even thought he tells me he really loves and care about me. I'm so confused right now. At a party too, he didn't pay attention to me. He went to take pictures with that same girl and let me there... I really love him even thought i don't show him alot it..I'm so sad..I need help Please

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  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Cont....
    Dear, you are weak, its not ur fault its just love. "by the way, he deserves you as long as you love him ".

    It looks like u r spending abt 80% of ur day in thoughts of him. Your life is in ur hands, do you wanna get hurt or do you wanna be happy ?

    Decide .....

  • 12 years ago

    Mina, u r a good person...so listen to ur heart...follow ur heart.dnt listen to wat frens say...cos once u have lost evrythn in life u wont have any1...m not gona advice u again on this, the answer is ryt in front of u...
    u r SCARED...afraid to take that big leap...u wont get outa this situation unless ur brave enuf to move out...
    all the best, bye!!!
    I Know its difficult, i think u shud take ur own time...

  • 12 years ago

    Pav,All you said really have me better, don't think i'm not noting all u say, i promise soon i'll take my own good decision and i hope you wont get enough of me and my stupid in love problem :) i'm thankful to you, you said i'm Miss.Right for him but he can"t see it, i wish he saw it .it is true that i love him so much and that right now it won't change, but i think he's getting enough of me or something like this.. And i'm wondering if it needs to kiss him or even give him all my love again , the problem is will you care it ? i'm lost again in love Pav , i don't know what to do to make him love me more, yesterday night when he didnt answer my calls, this evening i texted him this " Baby, thanks for ur text last , but i tried to call u and u didnt answer "

  • 12 years ago

    he texted me back this " I was already sleeping that's why and how was ur school?, enjoy ur meal. kiss " , then i texted him again this ' oh ok but it gets me a bit upset and my school was fine :) " and after this , he didnt talk to me this now. Maybe i'm a lil bit narrow-minded but is like at first, he wasnt like this with me, when we met , to this kind of text he will msg me " baby why ur upset , dont be upset , what can i do to make u feel better ", but now he had me , he even doesnt excuse... I was thinking about to give him more more love and to stop all my questions since he says that's what get him all his nevers, to just love him blindly..what do you think about it?

  • 12 years ago

    Angel thanks alot and im grateful to u too even i wish u could stay and give me more advices but i respect ur views. This stupid in love story is like its never gonna end but i hope one he will change and respect or i will stay. As u said im not brave enough right now to let him go but i guess im blind to see right now or im just obssesive? I rly hope ill be brave to let him go soon if he doesnt turn to gud person n respect me

  • 12 years ago

    he sent me a msg this ngiht saying " baby , wats up? gud night " , and 2 mins later , he turned his phone off. so i couldnt call him ..i tried to call him 4 times but his phone was closed..so i texted him this " nun baby, just u didnt talk to me all dat time , and thnks gud night to u too and i luv u "...Pav , did i do a mistake somewhere to deserve what he's doing right now?

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Mina,
    I guess you r giving him love but, u r actually giving him more than needed it is confusing him...because,
    In a relationship if one expresses lots of love the other partner sometime may feel pressured. (This pressure is usually associated with his/her moods. example, you are at your home far away from his place, so you really cant see wts happening @ his home, may be he was having a bad day, may be he was tired, may be he just want to sleep with his phone off...)

    But, u sitting at your home will be imagining all these waste thoughts ...like may be he does not love me anymore, may be he is with someone, may be he is changed, may be i must love him more.........

    All these thoughts are absolutely WASTE Mina !

    Relax.... take it slow, dont jump into conclusions. Dont get too worried and stressed.... "love is something u must enjoy , love should not be stressful.

    Mina everything seems to be fine with you and him, you are stressing for no-reason, st

  • pav
    12 years ago

    conti.......

    Mina everything seems to be fine with you and him, you are stressing for no-reason, stop keeping high expectations.... take it easy if his ph is off, take it easy if he does not reply.....if you always question everything then its your mistake not his..... **
    **DONT keep EXPECTATIONS FROM HIM, GIVE TIME AND TAKE IT SLOW

    **PLEASE STOP WORRYING FOR ATLEAST ONDAY :) HAVE A SMILEY DAY MINA **

    **

  • 12 years ago

    Pav, see what he texted me last night after my msg , he texted " I luv u too , NO!! i adore u , i desire u.." , i was so happy and i texted " aw u know i do too" , and he was like " just sleep now, u got school tomorrow, my love will always be in ur dreams, i luv u so much **" **n i was like ok ill sleep but tell me again u luv me " and he sent me this " baby, i luv u so much, just thinking about u make my human-being happy, i miss ur nice body, ur caress and ur lips. being a part of u is my wish. baby i loved u , i love u , i will love u." sent at midnight (00:35).....I was the happiest. I was ok with u to stop stressing just a day. But all changed , today the other girl asked me to help her with her phone internet, i was setting it and i had to go thru messages to look for da internet messages .

  • 12 years ago

    and it was like God wanted me to look at it , i saw a message from my bf sent to her at 10:05 pm he wrote just this way " **I LOVE YOU SO MUCH **"..i felt like a knife hurt my back. And i went to " sent message ", and i saw her message saying " honey, whats up? good night " that's what she sent. but fastly , i didnt let her know so i gave her the phone to stop myself seeing more.. And since the morning till now, we didn't text..i noticed that he just text me once a now, at night only...What should i do now?

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    you must be straight forward.....

    You must confront him with the msg u saw in her cell, and by the way you must let her know abt ur msgs too...if he is playing with both of you....then u have every right to save her and yourself from him.....
    but r u sure abt those msgs are they from him? You must be 100% sure.....
    MINA YOU MUST CONFRONT HIM .....BE STRAIGHT FORWARD.

  • 12 years ago

    my advice 4 u is 2 LEAVE HIM ALONE no matter how long... cos "A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS BETER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE
    prevention is bete than cure even being in love try 2 let him be cos he does nt respect ur feeling at all...
    am so sorry girl...

  • 12 years ago

    Pav, im decided to let him go. I know i love him so much but he hurt me so much , i dont have to expect for him to change becuz he can't. Yesterday I found out by a friend that him n that gurl used to sex together many time n she told me thats why he aint lettin her go.after it i tried to be nice 2 him n he told me he has alot a of wishes for him and me. He said he wants me to be his children mother(i bet he tells her the same), saying that all depends on me now that for him he wanna make his life next to me. I asked him to tell wats not ok in our relation: he told me he wishes me and him be closer physically that sumtime he wanna hold me,touch me,feel me etc dat unfortunately he jus sit dere listenin 2 my voice on fone. I told him i was srry bout it. Today at school when he was goin home he didnt talk 2 me, he said 2 his sex girl.im vexed alot.its like i lost the love fight between me n her n dat girl n her bestie send provocation 2 me. Honestly PAV wat would u do face 2 all this situ

  • 12 years ago

    what would u do face to all this situation? i lost the fight becuz i dont sex him and i guess he wouldnt be hurt to lose me and after it, the girl and her bestie are always and everyday now sending me provocation .... what to do ? what to do really cuz i got enough really....

  • Pav
    12 years ago

    Mina,

    Sorry for wht ever happened...its not at all good. (i am gonna be rude here)

    A blind person can understand that ur bf is an idiot of 10th order.. (if wt ever ur saying is true)... then wts wrong with you? r u too blind to see whats happening around? ....Actually your bf is better then you, he is getting wt he wants from that girl, and he openly asking you to sleep with him ??!!!! A monkey can understand better..that, u r dealing with a dumb confused nut!

    (SORRY FOR BEING RUDE)

    Seriously, if i were you, and if i respect myself, then i would have told him where to keep his head! and seriously never again i would have talked to him or the other girl in my life...(ofcourse it might hurt but i have something called self respect)

    Mina,You dont go around sleeping with boys to show them your love!

    If you still wanna go out with him ...then that's ur choice, i cant advice you more , all i can say it will be a WRONG decision, to be with him.

    HAVE SELF RESPECT

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